A few Mondays ago, as I walked on Church Avenue and I passed the supermarket, at St. Paul’s St., I heard a lady having an interesting conversation on the phone. As I passed her I heard when she said to the person on the phone, ‘I can’t talk to you right now. You only call me when you want money. I’m not a bank! Goodbye.” As I heard that, I slightly looked through my right peripheral vision to take a mental snapshot of her face without her noticing. I wanted to experience the reaction on her face. She couldn’t be more frank. I agree with her. She certainly changed her accent as well as mine.If someone only calls you for money, their perception of you is no different from a bank. What do you think? Bank has rules that govern the prime source or thing, money that keeps the relationship going. If I don’t need money or have something related to it, do I need a bank? You already know the answer, no. So now the question is, if your friends, family or associates, whatever you call them, only need for calling you is to make a financial withdrawal; do you think keeping a relationship with that person is necessary? Let me know what you think.
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A few Mondays ago, as I walked on Church Avenue and I passed the supermarket, at St. Paul’s St., I heard a lady having an interesting conversation on the phone. As I passed her I heard when she said to the person on the phone, ‘I can’t talk to you right now. You only call me when you want money. I’m not a bank! Goodbye.” As I heard that, I slightly looked through my right peripheral vision to take a mental snapshot of her face without her noticing. I wanted to experience the reaction on her face. She couldn’t be more frank. I agree with her. She certainly changed her accent as well as mine.If someone only calls you for money, their perception of you is no different from a bank. What do you think? Bank has rules that govern the prime source or thing, money that keeps the relationship going. If I don’t need money or have something related to it, do I need a bank? You already know the answer, no. So now the question is, if your friends, family or associates, whatever you call them, only need for calling you is to make a financial withdrawal; do you think keeping a relationship with that person is necessary? Let me know what you think.
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Thank you for your response St. Elmo
I agree with st. Elmo’s comment above, but only to an extent. Sure i would like to disassociate myself from individuals that only call me when they need money; however, most of those individuals that call only when they need money are my family. How can i really disassociate myself from my family? Perhaps i can limit the amount of times i speak to that individuals per month or i can just be blunt about the situation.
M.Mcleary, thanks for your feedback. I know it’s tough for you but life calls for tough decision making; and we all make them daily whether good or bad.Whether or not the relation is healthy or toxic, you always have the option to disassociate, limit or be blunt. Life gives many things but only you decide what to keep.
Its not necessary, but i feel like If they starting to get reasons they can not get money anymore, then i feel like they would automatically let go because there is nothing else they want, but what those individual s can not get anymore…
Well its very sad that at times people we know especially our family members only contact us when they need something… But I believe that some of these persons are unaware of this, it is therefore up to us to let these persons know that this us the only time they communicate with us. If ever after you enlighten there darkness and they proceed to do the same, then we can withdraw ourselves from such relationships…
NO…I would disassociate myself from folks like those. Such relationships are distasteful…sorry. Toxicity!